MEN: YOUR WANT OR NEED??

CAUTION: This article does not aim at posing men as villains. This is just my take on trying to make us (women) a little more self dependant emotionally.

A woman does not need a man more than a fish needs a bicycle.

This holds true for women who are true feminists.

It was a long time back when I had actually discovered the difference between wanting a man and needing him. Most of us do not understand this difference. And still we hope for our (WOMEN’S) liberalization.

For defining the difference between both the terms, I would like to share a small incident that made this difference clear in my head.

There was this friend of mine who had hardly ever been single. For once, when she broke up with her boyfriend, she broke down. That time when I hoped for her trying to pick her up, she literally took a jump! She started dating another guy the very next day.

Judging her for this, she clearly confessed that if she did not take this step, she would end up getting panic attacks on realizing that she did not have her guy anymore. There would be nobody to talk to her at night, to go out with on romantic dates.. BLAH BLAH!.

This situation is what I exactly term as NEED.

We women often tend to confuse our relatively trivial desires with our survival needs. When it comes to men ,we must just be strong enough to want them, not need them.

When you WANT something, you wish you can have it, but you can live without it.
When you NEED something, you have to have it, it's essential. And you can't live without it.

Needs make you weak. Wants make your life interesting.

If you girls are still confused on whether you want them or need them, I hereby give you an evaluation tip.

Just remember the last time you had a heart-break and how you reacted to it.

Did you try to mend yourself by having a ‘ME TIME’?

Or did you take up the easier option of finding an alternative guy to help you heal?

Think and you will know for yourself. Finding an alternative shows your weakness and the NEED for having somebody.

Facing and accepting takes courage. Falling is fine. Standing up is the challenge and STANDING UP ALL ON YOUR OWN is the biggest challenge. Doing this yourself makes you strong.

Summing up the article, the only moral is –

When it comes to men; want them, love them, hate them, desire them, do whatever you feel like doing : just try not to need them!!

You will then, in reality, understand the true meaning of being INDEPENDENT.

CHEERS TO WOMEN POWER!!

P.S.- I am not a MISANDRIST. I love men as much as you do. I just love 'me' more. ;)